Dating For Men

How can I show a girl the definition of a “perfect romance?”

by Chris Fox on November 11th, 2009 · posted in Dating Tips Men · 1 Comment

Question:

Look, I’ve read several books on approaching women, I’ve seen hundreds of videos as well. I know how to approach women and get their numbers, I have no fear! But what happens after that? I don’t really know what to do when I’m on a date with a girl, what do I need to do to make her fall in love with me and show her that I’m the most romantic guy she’ll ever meet? I’m currently seeing this girl and I really REALLY like her. I just don’t know how to be romantic, do I send her flowers, chocolates and cards on a daily basis? Please help!

Mark

Answer:

Mark, I’m warning you in advance, you’re not going to like what I have to say.

Okay, first answer this question: What sort of things do guys do to show a girl that they’re romantic?

Now if you just raised your hand and said:

Send her flowers and chocolates . .

Or take her to a nice and intimate candlelit dinner . . .

Then you’re spot on Marky Mark. God star for you my friend!

However, let me point a teeny weeny problem with these romantic gestures, did you notice a very similar pattern with each one of these seemingly romantic gestures?

Did you notice that all these gestures are in fact “superficial?”

Sure, these romantic gestures may express your feelings towards a woman – But they are NOT things that can actually touch a woman’s heart to the point that she’ll eventually fall in love with you.

Sure, it can make blush like an overgrown tomato, make her smile and then say something along the lines of “Ooh . . . you’re just too good to be true . . .”

I guarantee that you’re most probably going to get this reaction from her, however, these gestures can never touch a woman’s heart so deeply that it can actually make her fall in love with you.

Now are you ready to hear what women fondly refer to as “the perfect romance?”

Hold onto something tight, because this info will BLOW your mind!

Show her your “SENSITIVE” side.

Show her your inner little girl.

Now stop scratching your head and looking at me as if I’m Bruno the gay fashion reporter, listen to me for a second!

This might sound like something lifted out of a Danielle Steel novel but it’s true, showing your sensitive side to a woman can make her feel more attracted towards you and eventually make her fall in love with you.

Most men believe that showering a girl with chocolates, flowers and cards can automatically make her feel more attracted towards him.

Now chocolates and flowers can definitely give you some browny points, however, these actions alone can never make a woman fall in love with you.

If you show her your SENSITIVE SIDE instead, she’ll get the feeling that you’re letting her inside of you. You’re pretty much letting her now that there’s still a side of you that she hasn’t seen yet.

Let’s look at an example:

Would this girl you’re currently seeing think you were more romantic if you bought her chocolates and flowers every time you saw her . . .

Or would she think you were more romantic if you opted to create a card with a personalized poem that you wrote about her instead?

Do you get where I’m coming from hombre?

You don’t have to spend a ridiculous amount of cash just to show a girl how special she is, it’s in fact the little thoughtful things that can make a far stronger impression.

Basically if you’re always doing things that society deems as romantic such as giving her flowers, chocolates and gifts . . . then where’s the surprise? Where’s the mystery?

On the other hand, if she sees you as this mysterious and unpredictable character that at any point can do something “crazy” and “oh so wonderful,” then a small thoughtful gestures (such as making a short poem or mildly kissing her all over her face), or even a small assurance of affection is all I takes to make her more attracted towards you . . . Of course, once she sees that you can be this romantic fool she’ll want to see if she can get more of this sensitive side from you!

Flowers, chocolates and candlelit dinners should still be part of your game but make sure you use them very RARELY. Challenge her and tease her then out of the blue just turn around and do something really sweet and romantic like saying something like “You know what? You are the most fascinating woman I’ve ever met in my whole life …”

Of course she’ll blush and look all surprised and probably say something like ” Where did that come from?” Then look intently into her eyes, kiss her, tell her that she can make you do extraordinary things and then move on to another topic.

And that my friend, is how it’s done!

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