Love vs Lust: The BIG Reveal!

Let me tell you a love story.

It’s a story that I’m sure most of you will be able to relate to.

Back when I was in high school, I had the biggest crush on one of my classmates.

She was the most BEAUTIFUL girl I’ve ever seen.

Her name?

It was Michelle.

Brrrr…I still get goosebumps every time I talk about her.

I’m pretty sure that if you ever had a major crush on someone from your past you’d know what I’m talking about.

You should have seen her, she was a STUNNER. She had the most gorgeous long brown locks, they washed past her shoulders and just about down to her elbows…her tantalizing eyes were caramel in colour…her lips were ample and perfectly kissable…and her skin was silky soft and smooth.

I thought she was practically perfect in every way.

Back in the old days if you were in my class, you would notice that every boy in the classroom would be literally staring at her. And every ten seconds, you’d hear one of my classmates say something like, “Did you see that? Michelle smiled at me!”

Her beauty just mesmerized everyone.

I was in LOVE with her.

Even though there were actually a couple of girls that showed interest in me at the time, I didn’t care. No other girl could measure up to her. Michelle was the only girl that mattered to me – PERIOD.

For years I dreamt of asking her out. I would constantly imagine different scenarios where I would be kneeling down and confessing my undying love to her, telling her how she’s the most beautiful girl in the planet, and how I think about her every second of the day…I’m sure you get the picture.

But then I just never had the GUTS to tell her how I felt about her.

Fast forward some 20 years later and I’m now a man as opposed to the little boy I was before. I’m a lot bigger now (I would like to hope so), more confident and quite sure of myself.

And as I got older my “great love” for Michelle also DIED a natural death.

But then FATE plays funny games sometimes.

Case in point: Some five months ago, I walked into a shopping centre and lo and behold – there she was…my one great love – Michelle. She was still as gorgeous as ever. She still had those gorgeous long brown locks, her eyes were still as tantalizing as they were back then and she still had one of the most kissable lips in the planet. She’s actually more gorgeous now compared to before, because now she has grown and matured so she had a voluptuous body to match her beautiful face.

When I first saw her, I immediately got thinking, “Hey I could actually get with her now if I wanted to. I’m not the chubby shy guy anymore, I’ve got the confidence and skills now. I could finally fulfill my long-time dream!”

So I walked up to her and said hello.

To my surprise, she actually recognized me. We chatted for a few minutes…reminisced about the good old times…and then I even got her number in the end. I told her that maybe we should properly catch-up sometime when I’m not in such a rush.

So there I was holding my dream girl’s phone number as I was walking towards my car, thinking whether or not I should call her later and maybe take things a bit further…

But then, something just wasn’t right.

Although I hate to admit it, when I was talking to her earlier there were just no SPARKS. Sure she was still as beautiful as ever, she’s actually even more beautiful now than she was back then. But for some strange reason, there was just NOTHING there.

And here’s what I think why…

Because I’ve GROWN UP.

Michelle was no longer my dream.

The sight of Michelle actually reminded me that I was right not to make a move on her back then. Because not ALL of our love fantasies have to be fulfilled.

And you know what else I realized?

That we are actually meant to FAIL in some of our love prospects. It’s fate’s way of telling us that we need to grow up.

Have you ever heard of the phrase “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime?”

Believe it or not, some people were actually meant to come into your life for just a REASON or a SEASON and nothing more. Maybe they were really just meant to be your first crush…or your first kiss…or your first love…or your first real heartbreak…or your first time. Regardless of what it was, even though they might have seemed like the “right one” at the time – in reality, they’re not. They only came into your life for just that – a reason or a season. So once that reason or season is done, then it’s time to move on.

Yes, you are meant to love them and learn from the experience of being with them, but then afterwards, you have to realize that they were only a dress rehearsal for the big show.

Later on there will come a time when this one “special” person will suddenly appear in your life. You’ll notice that he or she simply just stands out from the rest of the pack. That person may not be as good looking nor as smart as other people, but then there’s something about him/her that’s just – DIFFERENT. You don’t just want them, you NEED them.

This person is your LIFETIME person.

This person is the one you’ve been waiting for all your life, therefore, once that person finally arrives you have to hold onto them tight because great love is very RARE in one’s lifetime. Your past relationships were just homework assignments, this person is the FINAL exam.

Now let me bring to mind an old saying that I’m sure everyone’s familiar about - It has been said that ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD.

Meaning: Although sometimes we might feel that we’re in love with someone, in reality it’s actually just a PHASE.

Have you ever heard of the word “infatuation”?

It’s an unusual and confusing feeling that emulates the concept of love. It’s not actual real love per sè, in a sense it’s just temporary insanity. You feel it all the time whenever you pass a gorgeous woman on the streets or whenever you simply “hit it off” with someone you just met. But then, once that breathtaking “magic” fizzles out, you’ll just end up thinking to yourself “What the heck did I see in them in the first place?”

Just remember that most of the time what you’re actually experiencing is “lust” not love. Don’t confuse yourself between love and infatuation.

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